Dating commitment phobia

Maybe he takes you out on amazing dates and shows you a really great time.

Studies show that people who suffer from commitment phobia are deeply influenced by their childhood experiences that have seared their subconscious minds and given birth to such unrealistic fears. However, there are some men who will only take up that responsibility for a woman who they feel deserves that respect. You think you’re heading somewhere, but you aren’t.

These include the death of a parent, a messy divorce, or parental abuse. For a man, a relationship is sort of like a responsibility. He has a responsibility to call you when he’ll be home late. You get sucked into a relationship that does not have a future.

Generally, a commitment phobe will engage in a constant “push and pull” pattern of attention and silence, using patterns of seduction to engage their partner, without truly being vulnerable and allowing her to emotionally connect.

While the causes of commitment phobia are as varied as the people who suffer from it, people with commitment issues share one thing in common: Fear.

This fear manifests itself in a variety of ways, including, fear of not being in the “right,” relationship, fear of being abandoned, fear of trust, fear of attaching.

These fears are all based on either complicated family dynamics when growing up, traumatic relationship histories (abuse, infidelity, etc) or unmet childhood needs.

Women like to hate on men who just want some booty or to have some fun. Most girls treat almost every guy they date as prospective husband material.

Can you really blame them if you’re a hottie and want to ‘get some’? They’re more smitten with the idea of marriage than with wanting to marry someone because they’re smitten by the person.

A person with commitment phobia need not display every one of the following symptoms but the more symptoms he or she displays the more likely it is that he or she suffers from the condition.

If your beau has never been married and has had a series of short relationships despite not being all that young, then he or she probably is not likely to commit to a long term relationship in the future either.

Be sure to look for a cluster of these behaviors that occur as a pattern, before jumping to conclusions.

Tags: , ,